Kindergartners will know more about sex than I do

I saw a Facebook post about Obama supporting sex education to Kindergartners. And, as always, there were people on both sides of the aisle. But most agreed that sex education for a Kindergartner would not look like “sex” education like most of us think about it.

So I took a moment to read the actual guidelines. Some of them should be taught, but is the school institution the correct place to do it? I am frustrated by those who continue to believe that schools are morally neutral. But as I’m delving into opinion, I’ll stop and let the guidelines speak for themselves.

Here is what is proposed to teach to 5 to 8 year olds:

• Each body part has a correct name and a specific function.
• A person’s genitals, reproductive organs, and genes determine whether the person is male or female.
• A boy/man has nipples, a penis, a scrotum, and testicles.
• A girl/woman has breasts, nipples, a vulva, a clitoris, a vagina, a uterus, and ovaries.
• Some sexual or reproductive organs, such as penises and vulvas, are external or on the outside of the body while others, such as ovaries and testicles, are internal or inside the body.
• Both boys and girls have body parts that feel good when touched.

• Men and women have reproductive organs that enable them to have a child.
• Men and women have specific cells in their bodies (sperm cells and egg cells) that enable them to reproduce.
• Reproduction requires that a sperm and egg join.
• Vaginal intercourse – when a penis is placed inside a vagina – is the most common way for a sperm and egg to join.

• Human beings can love people of the same gender and people of another gender.
• Some people are heterosexual, which means they can be attracted to and fall in love with someone of another gender.
• Some people are homosexual, which means they can be attracted to and fall in love with someone of the same gender.
• Homosexual men and women are also known as gay men and lesbians.
• People deserve respect regardless of who they are attracted to.
• Making fun of people by calling them gay (e.g. “homo,” “fag,” “queer”) is disrespectful and hurtful.

• A family consists of two or more people who care for each other in many ways.

• Two people may decide to marry or make a lifetime commitment to each other because they love each other and want to share their lives with each other
• Many men and women will marry.

• Many people live in lifetime committed relationships, even though they may not be legally married.
• Two people of the same gender can live in loving, lifetime committed relationships.
• Most people who marry intend the relationship to be lifelong.
• People who are married or committed to each other may get divorced or break up if they decide they do not want to be together anymore.
• Touching and rubbing one’s own genitals to feel good is called masturbation.

• Some boys and girls masturbate and others do not.
• Masturbation should be done in a private place.

• People often kiss, hug, touch, and engage in other sexual behaviors with one another to show caring and to feel good.

• Both girls and boys may discover that their bodies feel good when touched.
• Girls and boys need to take care of their bodies during childhood and adolescence.
• Like other body parts, the genitals need care.

• Sometimes women become pregnant when they do not want to be or are unable to care for a child.

These next are for ages 9 through 12, but are worth noting:

• A woman faced with an unintended pregnancy can carry the pregnancy to term and raise the baby, place the baby for adoption, or have an abortion to end the pregnancy.
• Abortion is legal in the United States up to a certain point in a pregnancy.
• Abortion must be performed by a physician or other licensed healthcare provider.
• A legal abortion is very safe.
• People have a variety of beliefs about the ethics and morality of abortion.

Back to what is taught to 5 to 8 year olds:

• Sexually transmitted diseases are caused by germs such as bacteria and viruses.
• There are many types of sexually transmitted diseases.
• People who do not engage in certain behaviors do not get STDs.
• A small number of children are born with STDs that they get from their mothers during pregnancy or birth.
• The most common ways for a person to get an STD is to participate in sexual behavior or share a needle with another person who is already infected with an STD.
• Children who find needles on the ground should not touch them and should tell an adult.

• HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus.
• Once a person gets HIV, he/she will have it for the rest of his/her life.
• HIV causes AIDS, which stands for Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome.
• People who have HIV or AIDS are more at risk of getting infections, diseases, and other illnesses.
• People with HIV who work hard to stay healthy can live for a very long time.
• There are medicines that people with HIV or AIDS can take to help them stay healthier and live longer.
• People who do not engage in certain behaviors do not get HIV or AIDS.
• A small number of children are born with HIV that they get from their mothers during pregnancy, birth, or breastfeeding,
• The most common ways for a person to get HIV is to participate in sexual behavior or share a needle with another person who is already infected with HIV.
• A person cannot become infected with HIV by being around, touching, or hugging someone who has HIV or AIDS.
• HIV is found in the blood of infected people; it is never a good idea to touch another person’s blood.
• Children who find needles on the ground should not touch them and should tell an adult.

• One’s body belongs to oneself.
• There are parts of one’s body that are considered to be private, including one’s mouth, nipples, breasts, chest, penis, scrotum, vagina, vulva, and buttocks.
• No one should touch the private parts of a child’s body except for health reasons or to clean them.
• Children should not touch the private parts of other people’s bodies.
• Child sexual abuse is when someone touches the private parts of a child’s body without a health or hygiene reason.
• Sexual abuse can also occur when someone asks a child to touch the private parts of his/her body.
• Both boys/men and girls/women can be sexually abused.
• Everyone, including children, has the right to tell others not to touch their body when they do not want to be touched.
• If a child experiences unwanted or uncomfortable touching, he/she should tell a trusted adult, even if he/she was told to keep it a secret.
• Children can be sexually abused by a stranger or by someone they know.
• A child is never at fault if a person – even a family member – touches him/her in a way that is wrong or uncomfortable.
• If a stranger tries to get a child to go with him/her, the child should run and tell a parent, teacher, neighbor, or other adult.
• Most people would never abuse children.

• Some people may expect or demand that boys and girls behave in certain ways, but this is beginning to change.
• Both women and men can be involved and caring parents.
• Boys and girls can do the same chores at home.
• Men and women are capable of doing almost all the same jobs.
• Some men and women may be told that certain jobs and tasks are only for women or only for men, but this is beginning to change.

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One thought on “Kindergartners will know more about sex than I do

  1. I’ve never understood why people feel pressed to teach everything about bodies and sex to a child all at once. If the same way of thinking applied to other subjects, then the ABCs would be taught to kindergarteners at the same time as paragraph development and analyzing the parts of a sentence… if it is understood that there is a natural order to things, why must this be thrown out the window when it involves anything to do with sex education. In all honesty, one of the reasons we homeschool is because we want to decide the speed at which our children learn these things and not society or an education system that clearly is not agendaless.

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